"Monday 5 Things" with D. Paul Graham


Monday 5 Things…..Deliberate…..

I’m often asked how I come up with M5T ideas each week. Some M5T’s come very quickly; sparked by someone I’ve met or a situation I’ve found myself in on any given week. Other M5T’s take longer to come together; percolating as I ruminate, often as I make simple bullet points that take shape over time in my iPad. This week is an example of the later. Today’s M5T takes prior deliberations about living deliberately.

1. Power of Authentic Positivity.

Positivity is a deliberate, conscious choice that we can make each hour of every day. Taking time out to reflect on what you are grateful for fosters a positive mindset. A positive mindset of gratitude that deliberately pushes negative thoughts away that try to run amok through our heads. Deliberate positivity is motivating and helps you push your limits toward your goals; positivity keeps you productive and can actually keep you healthier. Look for the positive – it may be difficult, especially when you are surrounded by negativity and chaos, but every situation has something positive that you can learn from, grow from, or make a positive difference in your life.

2. Set Your Price.

Your price. Your value. The key word there is ‘Your’. Be deliberate in understanding your value of your time, your money, your emotions. If you don’t set your own price, your own value, everyone else will; and rest assured, they will set your value and your price lower than you deserve. Deliberately setting your price will drive where you spend your time and your energy, and it will build your self-esteem. Know that you can make a difference. You do add value. You are a peer and you do belong.

3. Emperors Clothes.

Naked emperors are everywhere. Be deliberate in developing a healthy ego, not letting your pride get the best of you, and avoid walking, figuratively, naked through the streets. Charlatans are everywhere waiting to prey on your vanity and ego – oh we all have those moments where flattery from others and our vanity get the best of us. Be deliberate in who you trust, who you take advice from, who you take praise from and who you pick as your haberdasher.

4. Tipping Points.

Tipping points are those moments in time that we make a deliberate decision to change. Tipping points come from ignoring that inner voice, sometimes for years, that keeps coming back to you prompting you that something is wrong in your life. Be deliberate in paying attention to that still small voice, to your pain, and negativity. Those are crucial moments in your life. If you’ve stopped enjoying your passions or if you feel like abandoning your goals be deliberate in understanding why.

5. Know your Rules.

Live them. With clarity. With deliberation. Know your boundaries and guard them ruthlessly. Be deliberate in defining acceptable behavior, both for yourself and by others. Distinguish how you will treat others and how you expect to be treated by others. Be consistent. Be vocal when necessary. Walk away when needed. And never, ever, back down.

Here’s to a week of living passionately, intently and deliberately.

© 2020 D. Paul Graham, all rights reserved.

D. Paul Graham is passionate about people, culture, photography and business. He has embraced his wanderlust with his travels around the globe and is at peace with his need for spirited drives in all things automotive.

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