“Monday 5 Things”™ ….. Patience …..

Img 5422Photo: D. Paul Graham, “You’re Out There Waiting”, Savannah 2022

“Monday 5 Things”™ ….. Patience …..

I have this duality about me, as I’m sure you do as well. I always push with a sense of urgency to get things done and at the same time begrudgingly realize that not everything (or everyone) works to my timeline. Emails or phone calls don’t always get responded to as quickly as I’d like or need. Goals and dreams that I want to achieve seem to take more time to become reality. Prayers that go unanswered. Failures that make me stop, pick myself up, reassess my commitment and direction, and may even require taking a step back before I can move forward again. Depending on the situation, all require an inordinate amount of tolerance, acceptance, self-restraint, calmness, composure, and even suffering of varying degrees. In a word, patience. I’m pretty good at hiding my impatience and I’m thankful that you can’t see the child-like behavior or hear the expletives that at times fill my mind. And so, my fellow M5Ters, with an attitude of forbearance, this morning we consider the virtue of patience as October draws to a close and we head into November. And why is that damn car in front of me going so slow??? Don’t you know I have places to go, people to see, and things to get done???

1. Patience defines

Patience creates confidence, certainty, and a credible viewpoint, which eventually leads to accomplishing your goals and dreams. Patience through pain, loss, failure, and disappointments can shape our future direction and the essence of who we are.

2. Patience can be a battle

It is easy to become impatient and frustrated. Both of which can build undue anxiety, fear, and self-made obstacles. Impatience and frustration focus on external issues. Patience is trusting that still inner voice that only comes from experience, from understanding where your faith rests, and from drawing on the wisdom of life’s lessons.

3. Patience is power

Tolstoy said that the two most powerful warriors are patience and time. Often being patient can be seen by others as being weak or passive, when it is more often than not, a very active state and a position of dominance. There is tremendous power in waiting, watching, listening, and then acting at just the right moment. Patience is mighty armor that can be both a shield and a sword.

4. Patience is a discipline

Patience means waiting, knowing your moment will come. Patience means trusting yourself when it seems wrong to do so. It means delaying gratification for a greater choice, a higher purpose, and for emotional and spiritual peace. It is a discipline of moving toward a goal and dream then trusting the flow, knowing you are moving in the right direction despite setbacks, obstacles or needed detours.

5. Patience affects your time

Patience lets you take things as they come and grants you the persistence to see them through. Patience allows clarity to better focus on what is truly important to you. Patience lets you slow down at those times when everything seems to be spinning out of control. Patience sets parameters, both for your life and the push and pull of others on your time. A pause of patience can be a source of inner peace and happiness. Exercising patience can often be the best use of your time.

Here’s to a week of exercising patience with assurance, determination, and fortitude in all that you do and with everyone you encounter. Now hurry up and let’s get this week started!

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For over 10 years, D. Paul Graham has published “Monday 5 Things” ™, also known to readers as M5T ™.  Each Monday, Paul shares his observations, thoughts and passions on people, life, and culture.