Cotton blooming in Uvalda Georgia. Photo by D. Paul Graham / imageGRAHAM, LLC

“Monday 5 Things”™ ….. Cultivated …..

Driving back from Atlanta to Savannah last week, we passed by cotton fields that had yet to be harvested. I always enjoy seeing farmland that goes as far as the eye can see.  Having worked closely with a family of farmers in Georgia, I gained immense respect and admiration for their diligence, hard work, focus, faith, and a steadfastness that I too rarely see in others.  Each year the weather and markets are unknown, yet they cultivate not only their crops each and every year, but also cultivate close ties with their families, their friends, and their communities. As we prepare to celebrate with our families and friends around tables full of food with next week, I was thankful this week for farmers. Prompted by cotton fields, this morning’s M5T considers those things we all can cultivate in life.

1. PATIENCE & SELF AWARENESS. Nothing great grows overnight; not trees, not dreams, and definitely not personal growth. Patience allows you to endure the uncomfortable middle parts of life between planting the seed and seeing it sprout. Cultivate patience by learning to get comfortable with the pause and embracing delays encountered on the road to achieving your goals. Patience develops self-awareness. Knowing yourself is the first step toward mastering your life. Self-awareness is recognizing not only your strengths, but also your weaknesses, not only your values but also your triggers. All of which lead you to make better decisions and live with purpose. Cultivate self-awareness by recognizing learning points in your life, being aware of your thoughts, feelings and actions in the moment, and to being open to the insights from others. “Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” ~ Joyce Meyer

2. CURIOSITY & AUTHENTICITY. It’s a shame that adults so easily lose that sense of child-like wonder and curiosity. Curiosity leads to discovery, creativity, and continuous learning. It keeps life interesting and prevents stagnation. We can cultivate curiosity by asking questions about people, places, and experiences. Follow the “why”. When something puzzles you, chase the answer down until you’re satisfied with the answer. Take time to read to expand your knowledge and perspective. Curiosity cultivates authenticity. The more curious you are, the more you live an authentic life that’s true to your values, passions, quirks, and idiosyncrasies. The more authentic you are, the more you know yourself, the more you seek and speak the truth, the more you are willing to let go of perfections and embrace your flaws, the deeper the connection you will have with others. “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ~ Often wrongly attributed to Oscar Wilde, but it is a great quote none-the-less.

3. RESILIENCE & ADAPTABILITY. Life’s storms will come, but with deep roots, you won’t be easily toppled. Resilience is about bouncing back from setbacks, learning from failures, and facing challenges with strength and grace. Cultivate resilience by re-framing failures in your life as feedback from learning, and not as a dead end or reasons to stop. Recognize which family and friends will anchor you in difficult seas. Many won’t but cherish those that will. Resilience builds adaptability. The art and mindset of thriving through change. Life rarely goes as planned. Adaptability is about staying flexible, embracing change, and finding solutions in the face of challenges. Cultivate adaptability by keeping an open mind to accept that new ideas and approaches may be better than the ‘way you’ve always done it’. Look for opportunities and problem solve for solutions instead of being restrained by obstacles. Stay curious and learn continuously. “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” ~ Albert Einstein

4. KINDNESS & EMPATHY. Kindness is a ripple effect. It makes you feel better, makes others feel seen, and leaves the world a little more peaceful. My mom always said a kind smile costs you nothing but be priceless to those who need one. Cultivate kindness with random acts of good deeds without seeking recognition. Don’t neglect  being kind to yourself. Avoid negative speak in your head and talk to yourself as if you are encouraging a friend. Kindness instills empathy. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It goes well beyond sympathy; it’s about connection and perspective. Cultivate empathy by listening deeply. Pay attention to what people are saying without interruption or preforming an answer. Mom also said that everyone has a story that is rarely told. Whether that story is rooted in fear, shame, or deep hurt, we all have them. Imagine life from someone’s perspective, even when you disagree with their actions. Engage with diverse voices by reading books, watching films, or talking to people with different life experiences, perspectives, faith, and cultures. “Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another.” ~ Alfred Adler

5. DISCIPLINE & JOY. Discipline is the bridge between goals and achievement. Discipline is the internal force, that quiet voice inside, that keeps you moving forward long after motivation fades. Discipline builds habits, drives progress, and transforms your potential into reality. Cultivate disciplines by creating routines, allowing you to remove decision fatigue and makes discipline automatic. Discipline builds on tiny wins that add up to major victories. Discipline removes distractions, negativity, and toxic behaviors in life by nurturing your environment that supports, and doesn’t sabotage, your goals, objectives, and dreams. Discipline fuels joy. Joy is beyond fleeting and momentary happiness. It is a deep, abiding sense of contentment and delight in life and peace with yourself. It makes the journey worthwhile with an abiding sense of well-being that endures even when life isn’t perfect. Happiness is most often tied to external events True joy comes from within. Joy is the spark that fuels passion, creativity, and resilience, giving life a sense of meaning and wonder. While happiness can be fleeting, joy is enduring. Cultivate joy by being in the present, prioritizing play and being creative, being rooted in your beliefs and faith, and building meaningful relationships. Joyful people tend to have stronger mental health, better relationships, and a greater ability to bounce back from adversity. Your joy will definitely be contagious to all who cross your path. “Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

Here’s to a week of cultivating the most important people and moments in your life.

For over 13 years, D. Paul Graham has published “Monday 5 Things” ™, also known to readers as M5T™.  He continues to try and cultivate as much as possible in his life each day.

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